You know that you need to get back out there after getting divorced and start dating again, it’s just you kind of feel like something is holding you back. Just because you want to get back out there, that does not really make it any easier, does it? A divorce can be a harsh wake up call to realize that relationships don’t always turn out the way that we hope they will, and that realization can kind of make you feel a little hesitant to start dating again. Well, all of that can change, and you just might find that dating after divorce is nothing to be worried about after all.
Talking with a lot of guys who are fresh off of a divorce, I’ve seen that it’s pretty common to feel like you want to avoid the possibility of getting rejected as that can kind of put a little extra sting on things that you do not really need. Thing is… even if you do get rejected when you first get back out there… you kind of need to or else run the risk of avoiding dating altogether.
You might be afraid that you are going to get into a relationship that does not work out again and that will just make things worse, but it does not have to be that way. One of the things that you can do to kind of make sure that this does not happen is to make a deal with yourself not to rush into anything and to just enjoy the process of dating for a while. Have a little fun and enjoy yourself without thinking about any long term plans.
It’s often a very big mistake to try and get back into a serious relationship too soon after a marriage ends, though that does not seem to stop people from making that mistake. Still, as long as YOU are able to resist the temptation to do just that and you play the field for a little while, you will probably find that it’s not that bad and with a little more ‘experience, ’ you can actually have a much better chance ending up with the right woman this time around.
You might feel like you need a little dating refresher to get back out there and that is perfectly fine. Things have probably changed a little since you were last a single guy, so it’s perfectly reasonable to feel that way.
Need A Refresher?
A good refresher is just to get yourself used to approaching women. This is where a lot of guys seem to cut themselves off from possibility. They shy away from approaching a woman because they find it to be intimidating and that just leads to them ending up with the wrong women or worse… no woman at all.
Another skill that you need to learn is how to use text messages to communicate with women. Doing this can make things a lot easier on you, but it certainly is not the same way you would have texted your wife. When you get a woman’s number, you want to use text messages to get her thinking about you and that will help you to build up attraction with her. Truthfully, most men do this all wrong.
Dating after divorce should be looked at as an opportunity to meet new women, to redefine what you want out of relationships, and to just see what else is out there. And if it takes you some time, or you need to get some pointers before you feel comfortable, there is nothing wrong with that.